You’re Not Behind—You’re Becoming
You’ve felt it, haven’t you?
That quiet panic.
That ache in your chest that whispers, “You should be further along by now.”
Maybe it hits when you're scrolling through someone else’s highlight reel.
Maybe it rises up on a random Tuesday afternoon when you're still not sure what you're doing with your life, your work, your relationships, your purpose.
And underneath it all?
A heavy question that hums like background noise:
“What’s wrong with me?”
But I want to offer you something softer, something true:
You’re not behind.
You’re becoming.
The Myth of the Linear —Path—
Somewhere along the way, we were taught that healing happens in straight lines. That growth is neat and tidy and on schedule. That if you just try hard enough, you’ll arrive at some magical place called "there"—where everything makes sense, and you finally feel like enough.
But here’s what I’ve seen—in my work, and in my own heart:
Becoming doesn’t follow a five-year plan.
It meanders.
It loops.
It pauses when your nervous system needs to catch its breath.
It breaks open and begins again.
There is no “behind” when you’re honoring your own timing.
Signs You’re In a Season of Becoming
It might not look glamorous. In fact, it usually doesn’t.
Becoming often feels like:
Questioning everything that once felt certain
Feeling both excited and terrified about what's next
Letting go of people, roles, or identities that no longer fit
Being extra tender, extra tired, extra tearful
Wanting to speed up—but knowing, deep down, that you need to slow down
It’s not failure.
It’s transformation.
What If You Trusted the Timing of Your Life?
What if you were exactly where you needed to be—not because it’s easy, but because it’s true?
What if this pause is not a punishment… but a recalibration?
What if the unraveling is not a setback… but the sacred beginning of something more aligned?
Growth doesn’t always look like more doing.
Sometimes it looks like stillness.
Like softness.
Like telling yourself, “This gets to take time.”
A Few Soulful Prompts for the In-Between
What am I being asked to release right now?
Where do I feel the pull to slow down—even if it scares me?
What parts of me are growing quietly beneath the surface?
What if I’m not lost? What if I’m in a becoming season?
Write freely. No edits. Just truth.
Final Note
If this season feels tender—it’s because it is.
If you’re grieving and uncertain and still finding your footing… that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
It means you’re human. It means you’re becoming.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
Ready to take the next gentle step?
